So you just divorced!
Whether you are feeling relieved or distraught this is definitely a challenging and overwhelming time in your life!!
A time when you need to adjust to being single again!!
In order to move forward you need to rediscover who you are!!!
You need to think of the future as an adventure and a new phase of your life.
Here are a few tips to help you get started on this rollercoaster ride:
Treasure Your Magnificence
We are all unique and you are no different!!!!
Make a list of all the great qualities you have (and you do have them!) and focus on these. Re-read the list and ask friends to help you add to it!!
Do Something for Yourself Every Day
You will need time to grieve. You also need to be your best for your kids. Take a little time every day to do something special for yourself. It can be something simple such as walking, reading or sitting listening to your favorite music.
Learn to let go
Believe it or not there is life after divorce. Forget the ‘what ifs’ and ‘if onlys’, they are not helping anyone!
If you have kids you are now a single parent! This can mean added responsibilities! You need to learn to laugh more, do fun things with the kids and live for the moment.
What Makes You Truly Happy?
Take this time to focus on what really matters to you. Maybe you have been a wife/husband for so long that you have forgotten all of your own personal dreams. What is it that you really want to achieve in your life?
This might feel impossible but it is very important to focus on the good things in your life. One way to help yourself is to be thankful for what IS working in your life right now.
Be True To Yourself
Let your intuition guide you. If it feels right – do it!
If you have doubts – wait – give yourself time to think about it and say ‘no’ if it feels wrong!!
You won’t always feel as lonely as you do now!!
Life will move forward!!
You are a wonderful and unique person with so much to give!!!!
Just believe it!!!
If you are looking for advice in taking the first steps to divorce, look for a top divorce lawyer. Singapore divorce lawyers that only deal with family law are best placed to assist you. Choosing a lawyer that is trained and accredited in Alternative Dispute Resolution methods is also a good idea.
The National Association of Divorce for Women and Children and The Divorce Source Radio Network are co-sponsors of the online 5 week Survive and Thrive After Divorce Boot Camp, a must for all parents after divorce. For more information: For the women- www.SingleAgain-NowWhat.com (link is external) and for the men- www.SingleAgain-ForMen.com (link is external)